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When Self-Care is Not Fun

We have been talking a lot about self-care recently at both of the places where I work. In these conversations, self-care is usually framed as doing nice things for yourself. Maybe this means taking a walk in the woods, going out with friends, meditating, or… continue reading When Self-Care is Not Fun

Counseling and Spirituality

Several years ago a member of a men’s therapy group at the Men’s Resource Center at Fountain Hill made a comment in a very matter of fact and memorable way. He said, “There’s more to counseling than understanding our thoughts and feelings—spirituality is also an important… continue reading Counseling and Spirituality

Manning Up to Sexual Assault on Campus

According to the CDC, 1 in 5 women will be raped in their lifetime. That’s alarming. If you’ve been listening to the discussions happening across college campuses—where 1 in 4 women will suffer date rape or attempted date rape— you’ve heard that people are finally… continue reading Manning Up to Sexual Assault on Campus

5 Ways to Guide Teens through Risk Taking

Teenagers fall in love, and they make love. They smoke pot and cigarettes. They drink alcohol. And most of this is behind their parents backs because they’ve been warned, “You better never…” When parents communicate with threats, the message translates to, “You better never get caught…” Let’s… continue reading 5 Ways to Guide Teens through Risk Taking

Sugar and Spice & Everything Nice: Recognizing Women’s Anger

Think about anger. And now think about women’s anger. Does it feel like those two don’t really… fit? Do you remember the nursery rhyme that begins “sugar and spice and everything nice, that’s what little girls are made of”? Our culture sends messages to girls about… continue reading Sugar and Spice & Everything Nice: Recognizing Women’s Anger

Prince Charmings, Darling Princesses, and the Pitfalls of Expectations in Relationships

When many of us commit to another we truly believe we have found our Prince Charming or Darling Princess. Why else would we want to be with them if not because we believe we’re going to live happily ever after with our mate? Your other… continue reading Prince Charmings, Darling Princesses, and the Pitfalls of Expectations in Relationships

The Risks in “High Risk Drinking”

Thanksgiving Eve is one of the biggest drinking nights of the year. Some folks will just tip a few back, while others will participate in many more leading to “high risk drinking.” In my last article, I outlined the 4 Types of Drinkers. Type 3 (a… continue reading The Risks in “High Risk Drinking”

Creating a Healthy Check Valve for Emotional Energy

Feelings are energy. When you are angry, you have negative energy. Happiness is positive energy. People are the containers for their feelings, like a pressure cooker contains steam. When we experiences events in our lives that create intense emotions, we often becomes overwhelmed with energy.… continue reading Creating a Healthy Check Valve for Emotional Energy

Holiday Daze: Understanding the Stress of the Season

We all wish our winter holidays to be a time for celebrating, happiness, thankfulness, and togetherness. By October, we’ve started to form expectations – fantasies about gifts, family, and friends. But often those aren’t met. We’ll feel resentful, hurt, and disappointed. Here are a few… continue reading Holiday Daze: Understanding the Stress of the Season

Won’t You Please, Please Help Me?

In 1965, a young shaggy-haired man named John from Liverpool pleaded for support in one of Rolling Stone’s top 500 Greatest Songs of All Time, Help by the Beatles. Yet today “won’t you please, please help me?” isn’t a plea you’ll likely hear from most men today. Most men… continue reading Won’t You Please, Please Help Me?