Author Archives: Al Heystek

Counseling and Spirituality

Several years ago a member of a men’s therapy group at the Men’s Resource Center at Fountain Hill made a comment in a very matter of fact and memorable way. He said, “There’s more to counseling than understanding our thoughts and feelings—spirituality is also an important… continue reading Counseling and Spirituality

Outsourcing Emotional Labor

No, outsourcing emotional labor is not some geo-political strategy by corporations to improve profits. This is a reality that women have been aware of for a long time. Simply put, outsourcing emotional labor is a description of how men often leave the emotional work in… continue reading Outsourcing Emotional Labor

Manning Up to Sexual Assault on Campus

According to the CDC, 1 in 5 women will be raped in their lifetime. That’s alarming. If you’ve been listening to the discussions happening across college campuses—where 1 in 4 women will suffer date rape or attempted date rape— you’ve heard that people are finally… continue reading Manning Up to Sexual Assault on Campus

Paradoxical Father’s Day Gift

“I am your father, and you are my teacher.”  These are words that I reflect upon once again around Father’s Day, words that remind me of a gift I have continued to learn about and receive regarding the role of being a dad. Of course,… continue reading Paradoxical Father’s Day Gift

Simple Yet Effective EMDR Treatment Brings Hope

A handful of years ago I had a client that was working on anger management issues.  He was a military veteran struggling with issues related to trauma. Together we decided to refer to my colleague who did EMDR treatment and give it a try. After… continue reading Simple Yet Effective EMDR Treatment Brings Hope

The Risks in “High Risk Drinking”

Thanksgiving Eve is one of the biggest drinking nights of the year. Some folks will just tip a few back, while others will participate in many more leading to “high risk drinking.” In my last article, I outlined the 4 Types of Drinkers. Type 3 (a… continue reading The Risks in “High Risk Drinking”

The 4 Types of Drinkers

September is National Recovery Month. My work with male clients who have substance problems has taught me that there are basically 4 Relationships to Alcohol. For the sake of discussion keep in mind that one drink is considered a 12 oz beer, 5 oz glass… continue reading The 4 Types of Drinkers

Men’s Support Systems are Vital

Putting the terms “men” and “support” together may still be considered an oxymoron. The ideas that “men don’t ask for directions,” or “men don’t ask for help” continue to describe a reality for many men. It is not uncommon for the concept of support to be… continue reading Men’s Support Systems are Vital

Local Expert Talks About Sex Addiction

On February 20, 2010 Tiger Woods issued a formal apology for his recent actions and for events that have come into light. Therapist Al Heystek at the Fountain Hill Center talked with WZZM 13 about sex addiction. Watch this news report about sex addiction   –… continue reading Local Expert Talks About Sex Addiction


Our nation’s office of Drug Control Policy has designated September 2004 as National Alcohol and Drug Addiction Recovery month. According to publications produced by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services in 2002: • “An estimated 22 million Americans age 12 or older were… continue reading Addiction