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A Happy Couple’s Arithmetic: O + I = R

This simple equation explains what we need to experience a thriving, dynamic relationship: O+I=R, where O stands for Observation, I stands for Interaction, and R stands for Relationship. Observation and Interaction go hand in hand. When we take time to observe our partners and notice… continue reading A Happy Couple’s Arithmetic: O + I = R

Take Your Relationship to the Next Level

People often seem shocked when I tell them that all couples can benefit from counseling. I think that response comes from the idea that marriage counseling is only for helping couples get through a crisis. It’s not. The research has shown us that couples tend… continue reading Take Your Relationship to the Next Level

Techno-Relationships

“The medium is the message.” Communications scholar Marshall McLuhan coined this well known phrase, meaning how you say something matters just as much as what you say. How pertinent a statement in this generation of text messages, snap chats, and IM’s (instant messages). All of… continue reading Techno-Relationships

Paradoxical Father’s Day Gift

“I am your father, and you are my teacher.”  These are words that I reflect upon once again around Father’s Day, words that remind me of a gift I have continued to learn about and receive regarding the role of being a dad. Of course,… continue reading Paradoxical Father’s Day Gift

5 Ways to Guide Teens through Risk Taking

Teenagers fall in love, and they make love. They smoke pot and cigarettes. They drink alcohol. And most of this is behind their parents backs because they’ve been warned, “You better never…” When parents communicate with threats, the message translates to, “You better never get caught…” Let’s… continue reading 5 Ways to Guide Teens through Risk Taking

Sugar and Spice & Everything Nice: Recognizing Women’s Anger

Think about anger. And now think about women’s anger. Does it feel like those two don’t really… fit? Do you remember the nursery rhyme that begins “sugar and spice and everything nice, that’s what little girls are made of”? Our culture sends messages to girls about… continue reading Sugar and Spice & Everything Nice: Recognizing Women’s Anger

Prince Charmings, Darling Princesses, and the Pitfalls of Expectations in Relationships

When many of us commit to another we truly believe we have found our Prince Charming or Darling Princess. Why else would we want to be with them if not because we believe we’re going to live happily ever after with our mate? Your other… continue reading Prince Charmings, Darling Princesses, and the Pitfalls of Expectations in Relationships

Holiday Daze: Understanding the Stress of the Season

We all wish our winter holidays to be a time for celebrating, happiness, thankfulness, and togetherness. By October, we’ve started to form expectations – fantasies about gifts, family, and friends. But often those aren’t met. We’ll feel resentful, hurt, and disappointed. Here are a few… continue reading Holiday Daze: Understanding the Stress of the Season

Won’t You Please, Please Help Me?

In 1965, a young shaggy-haired man named John from Liverpool pleaded for support in one of Rolling Stone’s top 500 Greatest Songs of All Time, Help by the Beatles. Yet today “won’t you please, please help me?” isn’t a plea you’ll likely hear from most men today. Most men… continue reading Won’t You Please, Please Help Me?

Children’s Feelings: Navigating Them with Acknowledgement and Choices

When I talk with children about their emotions, it is unanimous that children’s emotions are very similar to adults. They feel their emotions. They’re uncomfortable with sadness, anger, and fear – just like adults. But when they are given permission to move through emotions uniquely, and on… continue reading Children’s Feelings: Navigating Them with Acknowledgement and Choices