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Surviving the Affair — Ashley Madison in Grand Rapids

I heard on the radio that there were more people in Grand Rapids who signed up for an account on the Ashley Madison website than voted in our last Mayoral election. That thought stuck with me. As a Licensed Psychologist who specializes in couples work… continue reading Surviving the Affair — Ashley Madison in Grand Rapids

Summer Newsletter, Grand Rapids

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Summer, a Good Time to Balance

The idea of summer brings many things to mind – backyards, bbqs, beaches, iced tea on the porch and days spent relaxing with family and friends. What summer doesn’t remind us of all that much is work, but, in a way, the play that summer… continue reading Summer, a Good Time to Balance

Pull-ups Are Safe…Underwear Is Scary

I was recently in the think tank at my house. Some people in my family call this the shower but I prefer  think tank because it is the only place in my house between my two year old’s toddler superhero  orchestras, my four year old’s… continue reading Pull-ups Are Safe…Underwear Is Scary

Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship, Part 3

Dave Thorsen, PsyD. The truth about conflict avoidance is that it is not honest. In order to avoid conflict a person must essentially lie. They say “Yes” when they really mean “No.” They say “No” when they really mean “Yes.” They leave something out of what… continue reading Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship, Part 3

Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship, Part 2

DR. DAVE THORNSEN, PsyD.   We all know that disagreements between partners are common. Whether they are big issues or little issues the potential for disagreement is a common part of any couple trying to work together or get along. When a potential disagreement arises… continue reading Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship, Part 2

Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship

DAVE THORNSEN, PsyD.  Most couples coming into therapy identify “communication” as the main issue that caused them to call. We’re so used to the word that we forget what a complicated and fragile thing communication is. Because so many factors create communication, there are just… continue reading Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship

Laughing Matters

Because we’ve gotta struggle…we’ve gotta laugh. The pain involved in overcoming obstacles and the joy that comes with reaching our goals go hand in hand. Through our work at the Fountain Hill Center—Lakeshore Office, more of our friends and neighbors in Oceana County have the… continue reading Laughing Matters

A Happy Couple’s Arithmetic: O+I=R

O+I=R  This simple equation explains what we need to experience a thriving, dynamic relationship.     O stands for OBSERVATION. Observation is a crucial aspect of any partner’s effectiveness in a relationship. Observation is how we know what’s going on. Without observation we would have… continue reading A Happy Couple’s Arithmetic: O+I=R

What to Expect in Your First Session

A question I hear a lot is, “I’ve never done this, what should I expect at my first appointment?” Well, I can only give you an idea what to expect as each person’s circumstance is different and your therapist may have their own process. Usually… continue reading What to Expect in Your First Session