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Parental Alienation and Domestic Violence: What Gets Lost in the Fog?

Since the term parental alienation appeared, countless articles have described the phenomenon of battered women loosing custody of their children when their batterer defended with parental alienation.  Domestic violence advocates and some Family Court Councils state it is “junk science” and is a “cancer in… continue reading Parental Alienation and Domestic Violence: What Gets Lost in the Fog?

Simple Yet Effective EMDR Treatment Brings Hope

A handful of years ago I had a client that was working on anger management issues.  He was a military veteran struggling with issues related to trauma. Together we decided to refer to my colleague who did EMDR treatment and give it a try. After… continue reading Simple Yet Effective EMDR Treatment Brings Hope

5 Ways to Guide Teens through Risk Taking

Teenagers fall in love, and they make love. They smoke pot and cigarettes. They drink alcohol. And most of this is behind their parents backs because they’ve been warned, “You better never…” When parents communicate with threats, the message translates to, “You better never get caught…” Let’s… continue reading 5 Ways to Guide Teens through Risk Taking

Sugar and Spice & Everything Nice: Recognizing Women’s Anger

Think about anger. And now think about women’s anger. Does it feel like those two don’t really… fit? Do you remember the nursery rhyme that begins “sugar and spice and everything nice, that’s what little girls are made of”? Our culture sends messages to girls about… continue reading Sugar and Spice & Everything Nice: Recognizing Women’s Anger

Prince Charmings, Darling Princesses, and the Pitfalls of Expectations in Relationships

When many of us commit to another we truly believe we have found our Prince Charming or Darling Princess. Why else would we want to be with them if not because we believe we’re going to live happily ever after with our mate? Your other… continue reading Prince Charmings, Darling Princesses, and the Pitfalls of Expectations in Relationships

The Risks in “High Risk Drinking”

Thanksgiving Eve is one of the biggest drinking nights of the year. Some folks will just tip a few back, while others will participate in many more leading to “high risk drinking.” In my last article, I outlined the 4 Types of Drinkers. Type 3 (a… continue reading The Risks in “High Risk Drinking”

Creating a Healthy Check Valve for Emotional Energy

Feelings are energy. When you are angry, you have negative energy. Happiness is positive energy. People are the containers for their feelings, like a pressure cooker contains steam. When we experiences events in our lives that create intense emotions, we often becomes overwhelmed with energy.… continue reading Creating a Healthy Check Valve for Emotional Energy

Holiday Daze: Understanding the Stress of the Season

We all wish our winter holidays to be a time for celebrating, happiness, thankfulness, and togetherness. By October, we’ve started to form expectations – fantasies about gifts, family, and friends. But often those aren’t met. We’ll feel resentful, hurt, and disappointed. Here are a few… continue reading Holiday Daze: Understanding the Stress of the Season

Partnership Brings Counseling Services to Two Oceana County Schools

This school year, children, families, and staff at two Oceana county schools will have something they didn’t last year: increased support for counseling services. Through the use of Great Start and Head Start funding, early childhood centers at both Shelby Public School and Hart Public… continue reading Partnership Brings Counseling Services to Two Oceana County Schools

Won’t You Please, Please Help Me?

In 1965, a young shaggy-haired man named John from Liverpool pleaded for support in one of Rolling Stone’s top 500 Greatest Songs of All Time, Help by the Beatles. Yet today “won’t you please, please help me?” isn’t a plea you’ll likely hear from most men today. Most men… continue reading Won’t You Please, Please Help Me?