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Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship, Part 3

DR. DAVE THORNSEN, PsyD.  The truth about conflict avoidance is that it is not honest. In order to avoid conflict, a person must essentially lie. They say “Yes” when they really mean “No.” They say “No” when they really mean “Yes.” They leave something out… continue reading Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship, Part 3

Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship, Part 2

DR. DAVE THORNSEN, PsyD.   We all know that disagreements between partners are common. Whether they are driven by big issues or little issues, disagreements are a common part of any couple trying to work together or get along. Potential Disagreement: Option A and Option… continue reading Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship, Part 2

Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship

DAVE THORNSEN, PsyD.  Most couples coming into therapy identify “communication” as their main issue. We’re so used to the word that we forget what a complicated and fragile thing communication is. Because so many factors create communication, there are just as many factors that can… continue reading Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship

A Happy Couple’s Arithmetic: O + I = R

This simple equation explains what we need to experience a thriving, dynamic relationship: O+I=R, where O stands for Observation, I stands for Interaction, and R stands for Relationship. Observation and Interaction go hand in hand. When we take time to observe our partners and notice… continue reading A Happy Couple’s Arithmetic: O + I = R