Article Category: Male Socialization

Emotional Intelligence and Becoming Bilingual: An Antidote For Toxic Masculinity

We talk a lot about emotional intelligence these days in our work at the Men’s Resource Center. The topic of emotional intelligence is at the core of many key issues for men—accountability, empathy, and vulnerability. For men to be truly accountable, they need to learn… continue reading Emotional Intelligence and Becoming Bilingual: An Antidote For Toxic Masculinity

Outsourcing Emotional Labor

No, outsourcing emotional labor is not some geo-political strategy by corporations to improve profits. This is a reality that women have been aware of for a long time. Simply put, outsourcing emotional labor is a description of how men often leave the emotional work in… continue reading Outsourcing Emotional Labor

Asking the Right Questions in the Wake of the Las Vegas Mass Shooting

As the days go by, and it becomes clearer and clearer that many questions about the Las Vegas mass shooting on Oct. 1, 2017, will likely never be answered, our Men’s Resource Center of West Michigan therapists, Randy Flood, Al Heystek, and Otha Brown, weigh… continue reading Asking the Right Questions in the Wake of the Las Vegas Mass Shooting

Goals: Achieve by Telling Your Own Story

Yesterday Otha Brown joined students of Muskegon Community College’s College Success Seminar for “Midterm Motivation.”  Otha talked to students about achieving their long term goals by overcoming the negative stories we inherit about ourselves. The event was organized by Bart Demeter, professor of the course. “During… continue reading Goals: Achieve by Telling Your Own Story

Manning Up to Sexual Assault on Campus

According to the CDC, 1 in 5 women will be raped in their lifetime. That’s alarming. If you’ve been listening to the discussions happening across college campuses—where 1 in 4 women will suffer date rape or attempted date rape— you’ve heard that people are finally… continue reading Manning Up to Sexual Assault on Campus

Chasing Dragons With Plastic Swords

Boys—we marvel at the playful energy they bring into our lives. They chase each other around the yard with plastic swords and sometimes unite to team up against the neighborhood dragon. It’s a ubiquitous image, harmless and fun to watch from the back porch. Yet,… continue reading Chasing Dragons With Plastic Swords

Paradoxical Father’s Day Gift

“I am your father, and you are my teacher.”  These are words that I reflect upon once again around Father’s Day, words that remind me of a gift I have continued to learn about and receive regarding the role of being a dad. Of course,… continue reading Paradoxical Father’s Day Gift

The Risks in “High Risk Drinking”

Thanksgiving Eve is one of the biggest drinking nights of the year. Some folks will just tip a few back, while others will participate in many more leading to “high risk drinking.” In my last article, I outlined the 4 Types of Drinkers. Type 3 (a… continue reading The Risks in “High Risk Drinking”

Won’t You Please, Please Help Me?

In 1965, a young shaggy-haired man named John from Liverpool pleaded for support in one of Rolling Stone’s top 500 Greatest Songs of All Time, Help, by the Beatles. Yet today “won’t you please, please help me?” isn’t a plea you’ll likely hear from most men. Most men… continue reading Won’t You Please, Please Help Me?

The 4 Types of Drinkers

In honor of National Recovery Month, I’d like to put forward a discussion of the 4 Types of Drinkers. My work with male clients who have substance problems has taught me that there are basically 4 Relationships to Alcohol. (For purposes of this discussion, keep… continue reading The 4 Types of Drinkers