Article Category: Communication

Developing Grit in Our Kids

By Tracy Thompson When I work with parents and children together, I typically start out by asking them to make a list of challenges. Generally speaking, parents start by talking about the lack of motivation in kids, the disrespect, and behaviors that drive them nuts.… continue reading Developing Grit in Our Kids

Outsourcing Emotional Labor

No, outsourcing emotional labor is not some geo-political strategy by corporations to improve profits. This is a reality that women have been aware of for a long time. Simply put, outsourcing emotional labor is a description of how men often leave the emotional work in… continue reading Outsourcing Emotional Labor

Welcoming New Counselors, Counseling Services

The Fountain Hill Center is pleased to welcome new counselors into our staff of therapists. This year, Blake Kooi, Ted Wohlford, Ben Burgess, and Lesley Menhart join us to continue The Fountain Hill Center tradition of providing a boutique of excellent counseling, therapeutic, and psychological… continue reading Welcoming New Counselors, Counseling Services

Communicating Well: A Shared, Intimate Perspective

When couples come to my office, it is really common for them to arrive with the complaint that they have trouble communicating. When this happens, my hypothesis is it’s not the choice words, perhaps not even the body language or tone, but more so the… continue reading Communicating Well: A Shared, Intimate Perspective

Dr. Dave Thornsen at TEDx Muskegon: Avoid Avoiding Conflict

You can live-stream Dr. Dave’s TEDx Muskegon talk, “Avoid Avoiding Conflict,” on solving common relationship communication problems. The talk is part of TEDx Muskegon’s “Mirror, Mirror Series” and will stream live this Thursday, November 12th, 2015, at 2:40 PM. http://tedxmuskegon.org/livestream/ Learn more about communication, conflict… continue reading Dr. Dave Thornsen at TEDx Muskegon: Avoid Avoiding Conflict

Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship, Part 3

DR. DAVE THORNSEN, PsyD.  The truth about conflict avoidance is that it is not honest. In order to avoid conflict, a person must essentially lie. They say “Yes” when they really mean “No.” They say “No” when they really mean “Yes.” They leave something out… continue reading Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship, Part 3

Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship, Part 2

DR. DAVE THORNSEN, PsyD.   We all know that disagreements between partners are common. Whether they are driven by big issues or little issues, disagreements are a common part of any couple trying to work together or get along. Potential Disagreement: Option A and Option… continue reading Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship, Part 2

Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship

DAVE THORNSEN, PsyD.  Most couples coming into therapy identify “communication” as their main issue. We’re so used to the word that we forget what a complicated and fragile thing communication is. Because so many factors create communication, there are just as many factors that can… continue reading Don’t Let Conflict Harm Your Relationship

A Happy Couple’s Arithmetic: O + I = R

This simple equation explains what we need to experience a thriving, dynamic relationship: O+I=R, where O stands for Observation, I stands for Interaction, and R stands for Relationship. Observation and Interaction go hand in hand. When we take time to observe our partners and notice… continue reading A Happy Couple’s Arithmetic: O + I = R

Take Your Relationship to the Next Level

People often seem shocked when I tell them that all couples can benefit from counseling. I think that response comes from the idea that marriage counseling is only for helping couples get through a crisis. It’s not. The research has shown us that couples tend… continue reading Take Your Relationship to the Next Level