Article Category: Male Socialization

Goals: Achieve by Telling Your Own Story

Yesterday Otha Brown joined students of Muskegon Community College’s College Success Seminar for “Midterm Motivation.”  Otha talked to students about achieving their long term goals by overcoming the negative stories we inherit about ourselves. The event was organized by Bart Demeter, professor of the course. “During… continue reading Goals: Achieve by Telling Your Own Story

Manning up to Sexual Assault on Campuses

According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, 1 in 5 women will be raped in their lifetime. That’s alarming. If you’ve been listening to the discussions happening across college campuses – where 1 in 4 women will suffer a date rape or an… continue reading Manning up to Sexual Assault on Campuses

Chasing Dragons With Plastic Swords

Boys—we marvel at the playful energy they bring into our lives. They chase each other around the yard with plastic swords and sometimes unite to team up against the neighborhood dragon. It’s a ubiquitous image, harmless and fun to watch from the back porch. Yet,… continue reading Chasing Dragons With Plastic Swords

Paradoxical Father’s Day Gift

“I am your father, and you are my teacher.”  These are words that I reflect upon once again around Father’s Day, words that remind me of a gift I have continued to learn about and receive regarding the role of being a dad. Of course,… continue reading Paradoxical Father’s Day Gift

The Risks in “High Risk Drinking”

Thanksgiving Eve is one of the biggest drinking nights of the year. Some folks will just tip a few back, while others will participate in many more leading to “high risk drinking.” In my last article, I outlined the 4 Types of Drinkers. Type 3 (a… continue reading The Risks in “High Risk Drinking”

Won’t You Please, Please Help Me?

In 1965, a young shaggy-haired man named John from Liverpool pleaded for support in one of Rolling Stone’s top 500 Greatest Songs of All Time, Help by the Beatles. Yet today “won’t you please, please help me?” isn’t a plea you’ll likely hear from most men today. Most men… continue reading Won’t You Please, Please Help Me?

The 4 Types of Drinkers

September is National Recovery Month. My work with male clients who have substance problems has taught me that there are basically 4 Relationships to Alcohol. For the sake of discussion keep in mind that one drink is considered a 12 oz beer, 5 oz glass… continue reading The 4 Types of Drinkers

Men’s Support Systems are Vital

Putting the terms “men” and “support” together may still be considered an oxymoron. The ideas that “men don’t ask for directions,” or “men don’t ask for help” continue to describe a reality for many men. It is not uncommon for the concept of support to be… continue reading Men’s Support Systems are Vital

Mid-Life Crisis in Men: an Opportunity for Change

As men, we are taught to possess life, not live it. The “American Dream” is really the Patriarchal Man Dream: Get the girl, get the job, get the house, get the money, get retired, and start playing. There is very little said about cultivating love,… continue reading Mid-Life Crisis in Men: an Opportunity for Change

Why don’t the Rules of Football transfer to the Game of Life?

The Penn State sexual abuse scandal is a sad testament to how the rules for the game of football sometimes don’t transfer to the Game of Life. Young men are taught in football to follow the rules or they will get penalized while negatively impacting… continue reading Why don’t the Rules of Football transfer to the Game of Life?