Author Archives: Randy Flood

Chasing Dragons With Plastic Swords

Boys—we marvel at the playful energy they bring into our lives. They chase each other around the yard with plastic swords and sometimes unite to team up against the neighborhood dragon. It’s a ubiquitous image, harmless and fun to watch from the back porch. Yet,… continue reading Chasing Dragons With Plastic Swords

Parental Alienation and Domestic Violence: What Gets Lost in the Fog?

Since the term parental alienation appeared, countless articles have described the phenomenon of battered women loosing custody of their children when their batterer defended with parental alienation.  Domestic violence advocates and some Family Court Councils state it is “junk science” and is a “cancer in… continue reading Parental Alienation and Domestic Violence: What Gets Lost in the Fog?

Won’t You Please, Please Help Me?

In 1965, a young shaggy-haired man named John from Liverpool pleaded for support in one of Rolling Stone’s top 500 Greatest Songs of All Time, Help by the Beatles. Yet today “won’t you please, please help me?” isn’t a plea you’ll likely hear from most men today. Most men… continue reading Won’t You Please, Please Help Me?

Mid-Life Crisis in Men: an Opportunity for Change

As men, we are taught to possess life, not live it. The “American Dream” is really the Patriarchal Man Dream: Get the girl, get the job, get the house, get the money, get retired, and start playing. There is very little said about cultivating love,… continue reading Mid-Life Crisis in Men: an Opportunity for Change

Why don’t the Rules of Football transfer to the Game of Life?

The Penn State sexual abuse scandal is a sad testament to how the rules for the game of football sometimes don’t transfer to the Game of Life. Young men are taught in football to follow the rules or they will get penalized while negatively impacting… continue reading Why don’t the Rules of Football transfer to the Game of Life?

Where’s the Outrage When Adolescent Boys are Sexually Exploited in Media?

I am alarmed that we’ve heard very little outrage at the normalization of an adult woman having sex with an adolescent boy as seen in the academy award winning movie The Reader. This lack of anger speaks to the gender constructed sexuality in our culture.… continue reading Where’s the Outrage When Adolescent Boys are Sexually Exploited in Media?

More than ‘goosing’ reported at West Catholic High School-Psychologist: Behavior not ‘normal’

GRAND RAPIDS, Mich. (WOOD) – A Grand Rapids Police Department report reveals new details into the investigation of inappropriate behavior on the West Catholic High School boys cross country team. The 16-page report outlines the interviews between police and the members of the team, as… continue reading More than ‘goosing’ reported at West Catholic High School-Psychologist: Behavior not ‘normal’

Infidelity in the Digital Age

Randy Flood talks with Fox 17 about dealing with Infidelity in the Digital Age: Watch the news clip on Infidelity in the Digital Age

Violence: a Social Toxin

I’m concerned about how parents trivialize violent media. The proverbial argument that not all kids who play violent video games commit violent acts is a short-sighted rationalization for not limiting children’s exposure to violent media. Psychologist James Gabarino, Ph.D., discusses how violent media is a… continue reading Violence: a Social Toxin

Violent Acts Reflect Broader Issues

In July, the Grand Rapids community was witness to four lives lost to domestic violence. Three slayings and one suicide asked families, schools, churches, neighborhoods and the community at large to make sense of the violence around them. Historically, we have tried to convince ourselves… continue reading Violent Acts Reflect Broader Issues